Lizzo’s Borderline Personality Disorder becoming full Antisocial Personality Disorder
More on understanding Lizzo. I have been studying the enemy. . .
I am diagnosed with BPD and ASPD and let me tell you it is possible to have both.
you feel way too much but don’t feel for others at the same time.
you fly off the handle over spilled water but also don’t care about anything at all.
you wanna hurt yourself (BPD episode) or you wanna hurt others. (ASPD)
Its living a constant paradox.From https://www.quora.com/profile/Lari-Dari
In fact, borderline/sociopath comorbidity is very common. Many serial killers have this mixture of traits. They murder because it is a way of avoiding abandonment. (See, Dahmer, Jeffery, or Rolling, Danny) The lack of empathy and tendency towards crime is the sociopathic part, the fear of abandonment is the borderline part. Some even argue that BPD is the female equivalent of ASPD, or the hot expression of cool sociopathic behavior. I even had a therapist suggest that the borderline mother of my son displayed sociopathic characteristics because of her ability to manipulate for personal gain over the long term.Dan Gallagher https://www.quora.com/profile/Dan-Gallagher-40
It seems to me that Antichrist Lizzo started off with mostly Borderline Personality Disorder, often suffering mood swings, and Satan “cured” her with Antisocial Personality Disorder. Basically, Lizzo is becoming more of an Antisocial Personality Disorder junkie as a way to control her BPD mood swings. Switching from one personality disorder to another is NOT A CURE, LIZZO! In fact, it’s turned her into a full fledged criminal with no regard for the rights of others. The following article explains the differences between BPD and ASPD.
These are the most disturbing facts of Sandra Meyer’s experience with Borderline Personality Disorder:
- If I’m feeling insecure, I have a frequent need for reassurance. This would tax the patience of a saint.
- I’m highly reactive to any sign of rejection by a romantic partner. Yet I push and prod until it happens, over and over again.
- Self-awareness hasn’t given me much more control. I’m just quicker to say I’m sorry. I do this a lot.
- Snap at me and I’ll burst into tears. It’s embarrassing as I’m nearing 50 years old.
- I am so sensitive to a person’s tone of voice that I haven’t seen my chiropractor in 8 months because his receptionist was short with me on the phone. (Yeah, I know it’s stupid)
- I flirt with people to make myself feel better. Not so good for relationships. (NOTE from Gail: i think Satan is a borderline, I wonder who he flirted with that got him into trouble. . .)
- I trust no one completely except for my son and animals. People always let me down.
- I see everything that isn’t positive as a negative. Also not good for relationships.
- I am easily addicted to things. It can be people, substances or experiences.
- If you treat me well, I won’t handle it for long. Do the opposite and I’ll fight like hell to hold onto you.
- Losing people or important things nearly destroys me.
- I spend more time lost in myself than I do the real world.
- Committing to anyone or anything is overwhelming to me.
- I’m not this way on purpose. I get no joy or pleasure from hurting or upsetting other people. I just want to be wanted and appreciated.
SOME CRIMINALS WHO MAY HAVE HAD BPD:
Katherine Knight, BPD (is not technically a serial killer, but definitely a serial abuser and murderer. Known as the female Hannibal Lector) 1 victim.
Jeffrey Dahmer, BPD, OCD, STPD, 17 victims.
Kristen H. Gilbert, NPD/BPD, 4 confirmed victims- actual number unknown.
Aileen Wuornos, ASPD/BPD 7 victims.
Elizabeth Wettlaufer, BPD, 14 victims (8 successful- 6 attempted)
Beverly Allitt, MSBP, PD Undetermined (possibly Histrionic/Borderline), 16 victims (4 successful- 6 attempted- 6 grievously injured.)
Those were the main ones I could think of, I had to search for the last two as they’re lesser known and harder to remember.
A BORDERLINE DESCRIBES HER HELL:
No, you do not want borderline. What seems like a beautiful mess on the outside is horrible, devastating, confusing hell. Being a borderline is hell, to put it simply.
Your social life sucks, you probably won’t have many, if any friends. Why? Because friends is hell too. You worry about annoying them, you wonder if they secretly hate you, if they only have you around to talk about or make fun of to others. You worry about them abandoning you, being jealous or upset if they choose to hang out with others over you. It just becomes not worth the struggle, so you learn to live with loneliness.
NOTE FROM GAIL: This explains why Lizzo keeps bringing up Loree McBride and comparing me unfavorably to her, like I waste my time comparing myself with others. LOL. LIzzo thinks by doing so, she can bring out the Borderline in me and prove that I’m not cured. But Lizzo, eat it up, I don’t have a jealous bone in my body! I had a VERY WEAK CASE OF BORDERLINE in my twenties and am now completely over it. When you truly love and accept yourself, you have no need to compete with others, because you feel that you yourself are perfectly okay AS YOU ARE, flaws and all. Only a person who truly loves and accepts themselves is free to truly love and accept another person without being threatened by their “superiority”. You see, I don’t see people as all black and white or as inferior and superior. We are all unique individuals and are all special. No need to compare myself with others, because my specialness is different from yours and that’s perfectly okay. You get it? You might say, but do you have favorites? Of course I do! And that’s okay, too. When I meet a “superior” person as I see it, I study them and strive to emulate them and am grateful they exist to add more beauty to my universe. I also respect their space and allow them to be happy in their own way, even if I’m not included. If I am included and I’m interested in their friendship, I just consider that a bonus. I have another beautiful gem I have added to my existence that I can hang around with and enjoy.
Relationships are the hardest of all. Once you find someone who can live with learning of your horrible past, all the impulsive, selfish, reckless, hurtful things you did you wonder if they really love you. Then you start questioning how they possibly could. In fact, you question everything over and over down to the last detail. Thinking they will find someone better, who isn’t damagaed goods. Someone normal. Are they cheating? Why are you home so late? The way earlier than possible ‘I love yous’.. Then you find yourself wondering if you even know what love really is. Everything is a fight. The constant reassurance.. Because they couldn’t possibly love you the same as they did yesterday. The neediness, oh the neediness. They must be by your side CONSTANTLY! Or else they must not love you. They must choose you always and put you before everyone and everything. You start splitting them when things are not how you thought they would be. Those are only the beginnings of the hell with a borderline partner.
The unstable sense of self. Who am I? One minute I’m a goth, the next I’m preppy. One minute I’m gay, the next straight. The obsessions with things, the jumping from one hobby to the next. By the time it’s all said and done you’ve blown all your money on a series of things you may only do for a few days. at most, a week. You are confused all the time. You worry about not fitting in, so you become a chameleon. Able to adapt to any situation or person. The whole time never ever knowing who you really are. Because not only do you have an identity crisis, you’d rather be anyone except you.
You feel. Oh my gosh do you feel. Your emotions are so intense you want to throw up. You feel like you can’t breathe. Your throat burns, your skin burns, everything burns with the intensity of a thousand flaming suns. I’ve heard a borderline’s emotions being compared to third degree burns. Yea, that sounds about right. Everything is as extreme as it can be. Happy = Ecstatic, Sad = horrible depression. Usually there isn’t much in between.
You are your own worst enemy. Your confidence and self esteem are always in the shitter. You hate yourself so much. You are the absolute worst person to ever live. You fuck up everything. You destroy and ruin everything. You’re no good. You want to spit at your reflection in the mirror. You don’t understand why you say the things you say and do the things you do. it makes you hate yourself even more. You feel unworthy of all most everything.
You are always in emotional pain. You are always questioning EVERYTHING. You impulsively shop, harm yourself, attempt suicide, self medicate with drugs because you are just so tired of FEELING SO MUCH.
Do you still think it’s glamorous?
These are the things I live with everyday. These are the things all borderlines have to deal with everyday.
It’s not fun, it’s not glamorous, it’s not beautiful.
It’s pain and failure, it’s black or white, its spiraling emotional hell.
Table of Contents
- What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
- What is Antisocial Personality Disorder?
- What Causes BPD or ASPD?
- Key Differences Between Borderline Personality Disorder vs. Antisocial Personality Disorder
- Psychiatric Treatment Options for Cluster B Personality Disorders
- Managing BPD and ASPD
- Elevation Behavioral Health Provides Residential Mental Health Treatment
When looking at borderline personality disorder vs. antisocial personality disorder, they may at first seem to be the same illness. However, even though there is some overlap, these are two distinct mental health disorders.
Both borderline personality disorder (BPD) and antisocial personality disorder (BPD) are grouped within the Cluster B type of personality disorder. Cluster B disorders feature intense emotions, so people with one of these disorders tend toward high drama. There are some unique variables that distinguish BPD from ASPD. Keep reading to learn more about these challenging mental health disorders.
What is Borderline Personality Disorder?
Someone with BPD often has low self-esteem and lacks confidence. They also tend to be fearful about being abandoned and overreact when they feel they have been slighted. Here are the symptoms of BPD:
- Feel empty inside.
- Black or white thinking.
- Low self-esteem.
- Poor impulse control.
- Deep fear of abandonment.
- Unstable relationships.
- Engage in self-harming behaviors.
- Engage in risky sexual behaviors.
- Binge eating.
- Substance abuse.
- Poor money management.
- Suicidal ideation.
What is Antisocial Personality Disorder?
Someone with ASPD has little to no regard for other people or for social norms and rules. They are often hostile, disrespectful, and aggressive. There is an overlap with sociopathy in ASPD. Here are the symptoms of ASPD:
- Aggression; often getting into fights.
- May torment people or animals and feel no remorse.
- Highly impulsive.
- Hostile, irritable.
- Deceitful behaviors.
- Blame others when things go wrong.
- No regard for the safety of others.
- Destructive of property.
- Engages in criminal behaviors.
- Difficulty sustaining relationships.
- Exploits others.
- Neglects obligations.
- Substance abuse.
- At heightened risk for suicide.
What Causes BPD or ASPD?
While there is no clear-cut cause of either BPD or ASPD, there are some risk factors that have been identified. These are conditions that may increase the chances of a person developing these Cluster B disorders:
- Family history. Someone with a family member who struggles with BPD or ASPD may have an increased risk of developing these disorders.
- Life events. Adverse life events, such as abuse, trauma, abandonment, attachment disorder, neglect, general adversity, or cruel parenting can increase the risk.
- Brain factors. Brain imaging studies have shown structural and functional changes in the limbic region where impulse control and emotions are regulated.
Key Differences Between Borderline Personality Disorder vs. Antisocial Personality Disorder
When comparing BPD and ASPD, you will notice some things in common between the two disorders. For instance, both of these Cluster B disorders share impulse control problems and both tend to be manipulative types. They are both at higher risk for substance abuse and suicide as well.
But even though similar, these two disorders are really quite different. Note these key ways that BPD and ASPD differ from each other:
- BPD is more common in females, whereas ASPD is more common in males.
- Those with BPD tend to direct their aggression toward themselves via self-harming, whereas ASPD directs aggression toward others.
- Those with BPD have higher rates of depression.
- People with BPD are more interested in forming relationships than those with ASPD.
- Low self-image is more prevalent among people with BPD as compared to ASPD.
- People with ASPD have a harder time forming attachments than those with BPD.
- People with ASPD are more egocentric than those with BPD.
Psychiatric Treatment Options for Cluster B Personality Disorders
Cluster B personality disorders include BPD, ASPD, narcissism, and histrionic personality. All of these are difficult to treat, as these disorders cause a high amount of inflexibility. Those with Cluster B disorders do not believe they have a problem, which can lead to problems at work and within relationships.
Cluster B disorders share common traits, such as poor impulse and emotion control. These individuals tend to be highly emotional, unpredictable, and dramatic.
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Cluster B disorders, including BPD and ASPD, can be managed through a combination of medication, therapy, and life skills training.
Outpatient treatment options include receiving treatment from a private practice doctor or therapist, or enrolling in a day program. A day program is the highest standard of outpatient care. They involve meeting several times a week for therapy, classes, and group support.
Inpatient treatment provides a higher level of care than outpatient, as the programs offer 24-hour support. These programs are especially helpful if the person is suicidal or self-harming. They also provide a more intensive treatment milieu, with daily therapy, group sessions, and holistic activities.
Managing BPD and ASPD
When it comes to treating these two disorders, it will vary somewhat. Different modes of therapy can target certain challenges that each present. Consider these treatment methods:
- Psychotherapy. Evidence-based therapies for BPD include DBT, CBT, schema-focused therapy, mentalization-based therapy (MBT), and acceptance and commitment therapy.
- Group therapy. DBT skills training and practicing CBT techniques are key aspects of group therapy sessions.
- Psychotherapy. CBT is very helpful for those with ASPD, as it can help them change disordered thought and behavior patterns. Contingency management is another useful therapy, because it rewards the person for good behavior choices.
- Group therapy. Group sessions that focus on practicing anger management and communication skills are helpful.
People with either BPD or ASPD will benefit from stress-reducing methods, such as mindfulness, yoga, deep breathing, or meditation. These methods can be useful as a way of regulating emotions when feeling frustrated or angry.
While there are no drugs for either BPD or ASPD, relief is often found through off-label use of antidepressants, mood stabilizers, or anti-psychotic meds. Support groups and ongoing outpatient therapy are also helpful in managing these disorders.
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JUNE 30, 2022/BY ELEVATION BEHAVIORAL HEALTH